Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Secret Language of Birthdays

Years ago, I was introduced to a book that has become a big part of my life today. This book is called, "The Secret Language of Birthdays" by Gary Goldschneider and Joost Elffers. As a person in my late teens reading it, I regarded it as an amusement and really didn't consider how any of this information could actually be real. As an adult, I find myself going back to it again and again because what it offers is a foundation to work from and patterns that have appeared to be accurate among the people I know and in myself.

This book offers an explanation of what they call "personology" based on every single day of the year. If you were to read it, you would read about who you are based on your birthday. 

There are many who don't believe in this sort of thing and even find it insulting to be categorized in this way, but this is not at all how I think of this book. There are legitimate patterns that appear in people. Months, weeks, days, reveal character traits that are undeniable. What has caused all the variations are individual experiences and personal growth (in my opinion). I think this book offers a foundation, or a jumping off point, for each person's personality that helps folks know just a touch more about what makes themselves or someone else tick. 

"Many people have long suspected, as astrologers believe, that the day you were born affects your personality. While no one knows exactly how or why, birthdays do tend to be uncannily accurate predictors of psychological tendencies." 

Gary Goldscheider bases his theories of personology on a combination of astrology, numerology, tarot and many years of observing more than 14,000 people. He proposes that "all of life is cyclical: people born on the same day occupy the same point in the year's cycle and thus share certain characteristics."

We keep this book on our coffee table and it isn't long before our guests are plunging into the pages to read about themselves or someone they love. It is a very rare few that find that the description does not sound like themselves at all. 

I do not think this is a be-all-end-all, but it has been a helpful tool over the years when meeting someone knew or trying to work with someone who I am having a hard time working with. It has also aided me as I have been dedicated to years of self-care and self-improvement. It helps me to identify my strengths and claim aspects of who I am that are not socially acceptable, but totally necessary to claim before I can work on them at all.

I have actually read online that this is one of the most shoplifted books in America. I find this surprising because this book is really big!

Fortunately, someone considered just how valuable this tool is and made it possible to access the entire book online for free. All you have to do is click this link and plug in the birthday you are interested in. This application will provide you your birthday information, your week information, your month information and even the season information that is available based on Goldschneider's theories. 

Maybe you won't buy any of this at all. That is fine by me. But, you might find that this is one entertaining book and even if you don't think it is the final word on personality, you won't be able to stop yourself from diving into all it has to offer for hours. 

If you'd like to get really crazy with it, Goldschneider also offers a version of this book called, "The Secret Language of Relationships"  which allows you to look up your birthday in conjunction with someone else and read about how your relationship might play out. It offers interesting ideas on how your combined efforts might be beneficial and work best based on who you both are and how they might polarize for the same reason. It also offers suggestions for the best type of relationship you could have with this person (love, marriage,friendship, family, work, etc). Again, some wise person made this application available online for free. You can click it here to plug in your birthday and someone else's (or two other's birthdays). 

I do believe that people can choose to grow and to change. I don't think we are "stuck" in these descriptions, by any means. However, I do think we start from somewhere and it would not surprise me to find that this somewhere is here. 


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